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A Circle of Love

images17Communion: The Female Search for Love by Bell Hooks.

One of my favorite passages from one of my favorite books.

Witness to Love

Women and men, girls and boys, must restructure how we spend our time if we want to be loving. We cannot be overachievers and perfectionist performers from kindergarten on in our public lives (the world of school and work) if we are to learn how to love, if we want to practice the art of loving. Genuine love requires time and commitment. And this is simply the case for love in the context of partnership. Self-love takes times and commitment, particularly on the part of those who are wounded in the space where we would know love in our childhoods. New women today, the late-twenties and thirty-something crew, are as reluctant as their patriarchal male counterparts to make time for love. Wise aging women know that one of the keenest regrets a large number of females experience in their lives is failure to understand early the power and meaning of love. Not only would that knowledge have afforded an understanding that would have prevented them from ending up emotionally abused and battered, it would have ushered true love in to their lives sooner rather than later.

My hope for younger generations of women is that they will examine the unfulfilled spaces of their lives soon and boldly, unabashedly choosing to do the work of love, placing it above everything. Again and again it must be stated that when I talk about doing the work of love, I am not talking simply about partnerships; I am talking about the work of self-love in conjunction with the work of relational love. Visionary feminist thinkers were among the first group of people to call attention to the disservice we women do to ourselves when we act as though it were important only to find the right partner, someone to love, rather than to choose a circle of love. When we place emphasis on building a beloved community, of which having a partner may be an essential part but not the whole, we free ourselves to lead joyous lives as single folks, (in or out of partnership with another).

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And The Winner Is!

Jocelyn Tyrrell correctly answered the question asking which famous book and author the excerpt was that I posted the day before yesterday (Friday – April 1). It was a section from Beloved by Toni Morrison. As a result Jocelyn is receiving a free copy of the novel Buddha’s Wife.

Jocelyn is married to Michael Tyrrell and says, “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” Loreena McKennitt is one of her favorite musicians and the Wizard of Oz one of her top 2 movies. How can you not like a woman that has such good taste? Here is her profile picture from Facebook.

Favorite Books of All Time

What are your 10 favorite books of fiction written so far (not including Buddha’s Wife, written by yours truly)?

Mine are (in no specific order):

Beach Music by Pat Conroy

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

Feral by Deena Metzger

Cry, The Beloved Country by Alan Paton

Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

The Street by Ann Petry

Beloved by Toni Morrison

Crossing To Safety by Wallace Stegner

The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd

The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon

The Stories of Eva Luna by Isabel Allende

On the other hand…

The 10 best books for living with loss are (nonfiction) CLICK HERE

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